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I am taking a creative nonfiction class online from UCLA. One of the students in the class wrote an essay about himself and a relative or friend of his, whose name is, Richard. I loved the way the author of the story described Richard – wearing a helmet, slapping his hands to his head, wringing his hands, excited hoots and hollers. By the way that the author described Richard it was obvious to the reader that Richard had a disability of some kind, but the author never labels Richard, and he never discloses the disability. Richard is just a person with unique characteristics.
This made me think about my illness. How would another writer describe me, letting the reader know that I have a disability, but never naming the disability? What would be written? What could a writer say about my behavior that might help a reader guess that I have schizophrenia without spelling it out?
Of course, the writer could make it easy, and say that I was talking to voices that no one else could see, but that wouldn’t be an accurate portrayal of my everyday life.
The writer could also tell the readers that I believe some elaborate conspiracy theory about aliens, or a secret government agency, but again, that wouldn’t be an accurate portrayal of my everyday life.
In order to be true to my real experience. The author would have to know me very well, or be a very keen observer, in order to detect my symptoms and describe them accurately to a reader.
This imaginary writer, who is writing about me, without labeling me, but wanting the reader to know I have a disability, would probably start out by having me eating a meal. S/he could say that I thought my food tasted funny and have me end up either pushing my food around my plate pretending to eat a little bit of it, or changing my plate of food for whatever my husband may have ordered.
The writer could have my husband and I traveling on an airplane. I might be visibly agitated. My husband trying to do everything to distract and comfort me. I may end up taking a pill and later calming down enough to play hangman with my husband or read an article.
The writer might have me at a conference, or with a group of people and then follow me home, where I can’t get comfortable. I walk between my bedroom and my living room. I curl up on my bed for a few minutes and then get up and go to the computer to check my e-mail. Nothing I do seems to make me happy. I am agitated. I may end up taking a pill and going to sleep for half of an hour. I wake up and I no longer need to move from room to room.
No matter how the writer described me, if s/he was true to my daily experiences, then it is doubtful that the reader would guess that my disability is schizophrenia.
I find both joy and sorrow in this reality. I find joy knowing that my illness isn’t easily identifiable, I find sorrow knowing that the stereotypes are so ingrained in our culture that few if any could recognize a severe mental illness if they had a description of symptoms described to them.
Like Richard, I am just a unique character, that needs no label. I hope a writer would handle me with so much affection, compassion, and care.
I would describe you making cakes – lots of cakes, for your main carrier and neighbors. Cakes that heal… and then try to describe how the beautiful cake-making turns ugly. I’d probably use the scene where you are in bed, obsessing over a moldy bit on your platter of snacks. I’d show you at the window, keeping a protective eye on your husband as he sells your car, to show that sometimes you are a lot like me.
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Those would be good examples – you have a good memory.
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MAIL carrier. I thought I turned that darn spell-check-with-a-will-of-its-own off!
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Thank you!
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I’m going to give it a go. I need a new writing challenge to kickstart my own work again. I’ll let you know what I come up with. 😀 (I’ll be gentle I promise)
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https://spykeyone.wordpress.com/2015/10/28/a-journey-with-you/
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I read it. It is clever, but I don’t often argue with mirrors! HA!
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See. The key word there is ‘often’… 😉
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HA!
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And does that mean you always agree with them then? 😀
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I haven’t heard from “them” in almost eight years so I think we had a break-up. I’m hoping it was as final as a divorce. 🙂
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I don’t know how your character would be, but your writing is surely extremely unique. I regularly follow your posts and you have this freshness whenever you talk about your problems, and that offers a unique perspective to me, as a reader. I love your writing.
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Thank you so much! That means a lot to me!!! 🙂
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Brilliant! I love this for so many reasons. You write a significant truth that folks unfamiliar with mental illness fail to see: we may suffer from brain disorders, but we are all unique, no two of us is alike. Funny, even in the ‘healthy’ populace the truism exists.
Beautiful! I would love for you to consider submitting this to a major newspaper (The New York Times, The Washington Post, the Chicago Tribune). Breaking down stereotypes, and building bridges, are our stepping stones to opening a dialog that can break the cycle of shame and stigma.
☕️❤️
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Thank you so much! I will look at editing it and cleaning it up and then look for a place to submit it!! Thanks again!
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Sweetie, go online to Op-Eds, or Opinion (Editorials). Leave a phone number for contact.
Years ago, The Dallas Morning News, ran one of my editorials. I’ve also had an Op-Ed piece in, The Wall Street Journal and ,The New York Times.
Bless you for such eye-opening material! It may sound simple to some, but to others, it is crucial.
Love ya, Sweets! ☕️❤️
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Thanks! 🙂 ❤
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I think you actually just described me! The one difference though is that I would push the food around on my plate, complain that it tasted funny, then eat it all anyways and then go get more. But everything else- definitely me. I love your writing. You write with such an open honesty that’s just very engaging- your blog is one of my favorites.
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You would think with my paranoia about food that I would be skinny, but I’m not. I usually end up eating my husband’s food and then eating desserts to comfort myself. HA! Thanks for the support! You know I love your blog too!
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haha!! Oh man, dessert eating for comfort is like my biggest thing. Huge reason I struggle with weight! Argh, chocolate and cakes just make everything else in life so much better! If only broccoli could offer such comfort…
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Yes, I respond to my problems with a chocolate covered smile. (very attractive image, no? brown teeth are everyone’s favorite)
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