I posted this on Facebook the other day, and it received more attention than most of my posts. What do those of you with a mental illness or with a loved one with mental illness think about this? If you hate this idea, there is no need to be disrespectful; we can disagree without disliking one another.
In the Wake of Waffle House
When I was married to my ex-husband, we went hunting for grouse on many evenings after he got home from work. Once, while camping, he wanted to teach me to shoot. I shot his pistol twice. That was a couple of years before I tried to jump off a bridge and before I took all of my medication and needed to have my heart jump started.
This might be an unpopular opinion, but I am someone who actually knows what it is like to be suicidal, delusional, paranoid, and psychotic. I want nothing to do with a gun. I don’t want to go to a shooting range. I don’t want to shoot at a tin can. I don’t want a gun in my house for safety, and I don’t want to be around anyone who has one, not in Arizona (open carry) or anywhere else. If I see a gun on someone’s hip when I visit Tucson, I immediately move away from them.
I know that the majority of people with a mental illness are not violent. I know the statistics, mentally ill people are more likely to be victims than perpetrators, but that doesn’t negate the fact that I have been out of my rational mind on more than one occasion. I could never live with the guilt of hurting someone even if I did it while psychotic and the court found me incapable or whatever. No. I don’t want that chance.
You see, I don’t completely trust the mind I have been given – it has deserted me before. When I am in recovery, I won’t hurt a human or animal (I do eat fish), and even though this is true of me, I can’t say with 100% certainty that I will never again be a danger to myself or others.
I get vaccines every year, not so much to protect myself but to protect those who are more vulnerable and could lose their lives if they contracted certain illnesses. I do this because I want to live in society and be a responsible and compassionate member. For this reason, I don’t believe those people with a brain illness should own guns. There are many restrictions to driving with certain illnesses, and I see gun ownership in the same way.
I should never be allowed to purchase a gun and society has every right to enforce that on me for the good of the whole (me included). Go ahead vote to take away my second amendment rights; I will be the person behind you, checking the same box you do. Don’t worry, my sense of freedom won’t be shattered.
I think shooting guns is fun. I have been in the hospitals, the system, medicated, labeled, etc etc etc. What I disagree with is a society that frowns on anyone even standing up for themselves, albeit verbally. That’s where this gun debate leads. The removing of all rights all the way to the freedom of expression.
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I love freedom of expression and I love a good debate as long as it doesn’t lead to name calling or hostility. 🙂
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I don’t think it’s safe for anyone whose illness makes them prone to suicidality to have a gun.
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I agree, but I know that many people disagree with us.
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I agree with you. I don’t trust myself around guns, just because I know how I can get it when I’m relapsing. My fiance’s dad once gifted a gun to us. It was in the house for an hour until I could convince my fiance that his dad wont be offended if we give it back. Because I hate guns.
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I would do the same thing! 🙂
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I admire your openness and your ability to understand your illness, rationally. Often times, even when properly medicated, there are times when the mind breaks through the cracks. You are not in control of your actions, many have a difficult time coming to grips with this reality. Even with all the mental awareness education available, it’s completely unknown and misunderstood.
Donna
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Thank you!
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I feel the same way. I don’t want a gun and think we need stricter gun control laws. I like how you worded this. My mind deserted me too in 2014. (Literally) I spent some time in Arizona when I was off my meds. My mind deserted me in the desert. LOL Thankfully I had no weapons .
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I love my grandson who suffers from this thief of young people’s minds called Schizophrenia ..and I d not want a him to own a gun or be near one ever.
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I agree,i am scared of guns.I have never touched one and I don’t want to.I would feel terrible if I hurt someone,cause I don’t want to hurt anybody else.
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I’m mixed on this subject. I have no desire to own a gun but not because of my bipolar disorder. In my past experiences with psychosis, I would have only hurt myself. But I know my illness is different. Even those with bipolar disorder have different experiences. Despite what the media portrays, most mass shooters don’t have mental illnesses. It’s what I call the fragile male ego. I’ve watched way too many documentaries on the subject. The first major mass shooter was a female in the 70s but the majority is done by men. Columbine, they had depression, but they did it because they were bullied. Elliot Rodgers did it because he couldn’t get a girlfriend. Cruz was racist and had recently broken up with his gf from that school. I think there’s so much more to it than mental illness. Don’t get me wrong, Adam Lanza clearly was in psychosis when he shot up Sandy Hook but the majority do not. But the majority of gun violence is actually against women from ex husbands, boyfriends, etc. who had restraining orders against them or had had domestic abuse charges prior. But again, I’m mixed on the subject. I am, however, all for stricter gun laws. If someone has a restraining order against them or domestic abuse charges, they deff should not be able to get a gun.
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I think it is okay to be mixed on the subject. People feel strongly about it and we need to be able to discuss both sides rationally.
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